It doesn’t matter whether the divorce is contested or uncontested, as it will always have an emotional and psychological toll to the parties involved. It doesn’t matter if you are the one who initiated the divorce, the reason why the divorce has been filed, or are merely a child that has been caught up with your parents’ issues.
Anger is an appropriate response in separation, especially if the reason behind the separation or the idea of the separation itself has a negative core idea, like when your spouse has been cheating on you or beating your children. But anger is not always a good thing, as it may result into increased irritability, which can even compromise your relationship with your children.
Anxiety in divorce is often rooted to the uncertainty of the future, now that you and your spouse are arguing about division of your assets and liabilities, child custody, spousal support, and other legal aspects that can tremendously change not just your future, but also the future of your children.
The involved spouses may even focus their energies too much on the negative emotions that it may result into alienation behaviors, such as disinterest in activities, withdrawal from social interaction, and even emotional detachment to their children.
Extreme feelings of sadness, downright depression, and low self-worth may lead to behaviors that may distract them or make them escape these emotional and psychological responses, such as overeating, oversleeping, overworking, and on the worst instances, even suicide.
Guilt can be warranted and unwarranted. It can be justified for those who have been the initiator of divorce, but it can be unjustified for children who feel that they are the reason behind the divorce. Children may be significantly affected by divorce, so it is best to talk to them about it.
It is important to note, however, that the emotional and psychological effects are not always negative, and if they are, they are not always permanent. Divorce can lead to positive responses such as relief from getting out of a toxic marriage and hopefulness because of the possibility of a fresh start.